LOVE made you stay. FEAR made them leave.
Has love ever kept you in a space that was no longer comfortable; no longer promising; no longer the reason behind your smile? But you stayed because somewhere in the midst of all the pain, all the tears, all the unanswered questions, and unspoken thoughts, you clung to a thread of hope; and although things were seemingly taking a turn for the worst, you remained sanguine; you remained committed; you remained faithful- all because you had unwavering confidence in your relationship. It all boils down to one thing- your love made you stay.
One thing I have come to learn about love is that, love will never let you just walk away from something you're deeply invested in- without trying to fix it. Love will never let you give up on somebody you share a precious bond with- without trying to fight for them. Because love is long-suffering, you are more likely to believe that things will one day revert back to how they once were, all while hoping that the present hardships would produce future benefits, thus propelling your relationship to a new dimension. But the longer you stayed, the more things stayed the same.
After you have loved someone immeasurably, without any reciprocation for so long- you begin to ask: WHY? Why aren't they responding to my love by giving me their love? Why aren't they as adamant about salvaging the relationship as I am? Why am I giving myself away to them only to feel rejected in the end? Perhaps the answer to your why is: FEAR. It's not because you're unworthy. It's not because there's something wrong with you. It's not about you! It's about them. It's about their fear. Once you have experienced the truth of love, you'll comprehend that true love and fear cannot operate in the same space. Why? Because perfect love drives out fear. Love and fear are two opposites that will never attract, wherefore the person operating in fear is unable to receive or give love.
Your love made you stay, but their fear made them leave...
The cause of their fear might be unbeknownst to you, but within themselves, they're knowledgeable of where their fear stems from. The root of their fear can stem from past hurts to current struggles. It can derive from deep rooted insecurities and feelings of inadequacy, that leads them to believe they are undeserving of your love. Despite the reason, fear has hindered their ability to love you, the way you are loving them. Fear has gripped their ability to love, and placed it under lock and key. So, even if they desire to stay, and even if they make exertions to stay, they can't. All things considered, fear doesn't have to be the pen that signs the death certificate on your relationship. Restoration is possible. Inquire and find out if fear is their issue, and if they admit that it is, offer to help them fight against it. If they accept your offer, be prepared to fight without getting weary in the process. You were intransigent in loving them---can you be intransigent in fighting for and with them? Can you be relentless in fixing what's broken? Your adamance about fighting with them will assure them that your love for them is genuine. Keep in mind--the only resolution for a relationship plagued by fear is faith and willingness--- faith to believe in love again, and the willingness to fix the damage caused by fear.
To Be Continued...
To Be Continued...
